When Life is Unfair…December 1, 2013

We all grew up hearing the line “Life isn’t fair, get used to it.” And we’ve all experienced true unfairness in many stages of life be it petty, aggravating, hurtful, disappointing, etc. But what happens when you are wronged? I mean really, really wronged to the point where it alters your way of life? When the impropriety surges to the point of felonious? To the point it makes you question justice? To the point you hear the words avenge or revenge fluttering around like a butterfly in the background of your thoughts? To the point you find much humor (and perhaps a glimmer of hope) in a silly song you heard on the “Bob and Tom Show” like “I hope you die.”

If I’m honest, (and I am) I’ve wrestled with these mind-bending meditations over the last 3 weeks. You see, I lost my job after 29 years of service and dedication. I’ve temporarily lost the only career I’ve apprehended since the age of nineteen. And how? It vanished at the hands of a micromanager control freak. I’m not so brash as to believe I had no hand in my own demise in this particular segment of life. My hand in it was dealt in the many moments I chose not to be bound by the chains of oppression. My card was played when I pressed back and persevered in my quest to fulfill a job description I was given but unable to deliver. All because of a turgid addiction to power and a proclivity to dominate over any talent in which another may exhibit prowess.

I’m not arrogant; however, I am confident in my abilities and skillset. I love a quotation credited to Mother Teresa which crossed my path awhile back… “I can do what you can’t do. You can do what I can’t do. Together we can do great things.” This is so true! Why be intimidated by another’s talents rather than embracing them? The many people in my life from whom I have garnered much knowledge were smarter than me and able to do things I could not. I set to task to glean morsels of those compendiums to which I desired more information. There is much to learn from others and I want to learn from them! I am willing to share what I know as well. Mutually beneficial is good.

And, so just as this too shall pass, this too I will choose to learn from. By the way, I deplore ending a sentence with a preposition (one example of something I extracted and retained from a long ago boss whom I admired) I will triumph through this trial by becoming BETTER versus BITTER. You see, you can only claim one….and bitter doesn’t achieve any good thing…. it actually leaves a bad taste in your mouth. And besides, if you are a Believer, you can take great delight in this:

Proverbs 16:11 says “Honest scales and balances belong to the Lord; all the weights in the bag are of His making.”

God hates differing weights and measures according to Scripture. This includes evidence of a person’s impure motives and depraved actions in his dishonesty in business. In other words, what goes around comes around. On that you can be certain. And I, for one, am all too content to rest in the knowledge that God will balance the scales of unfairness!

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  1. I am grateful for our paths colliding and the friendship that has blossomed. You are a delightful woman with a wanderlust and zest for life that I appreciate.
    Looking forward to sharing adventures on the island together and keeping up with your inner thoughts and wisdom thru your writing. Keep at it sister.

    • Becca,
      As you can clearly see, I haven’t written in awhile and noticed your blog hasn’t had any new entries either. I loved and looked forward to reading about your thoughts and adventures! What is it about the sporadic inspirations we must experience; the fact we aren’t regular in our additions to our blogs? I’m contemplating a different approach… till then, hope you find some time to add to yours as I really miss reading it. Tammy


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